In the case of the yellow dog, I knew perfectly well that I wanted a shelter dog just like her, no worries there on my behalf.But what about the yellow dog's preferences? I know, she's just a dog, but I often wonder about her first owners, the ones that ruined her tail and made her so mistrustful of people. Based on what I know of dogs, she probably loved them anyway, because that's the way it is with dogs: They love their humans, no matter what.
So basically, we are some sort of "second best" for the yellow dog, her first choice being the humans that never bothered to pick her up from the pound.
Under the risk of offending someone, I confess that this makes me think about foster kids. Their first choice would be, obviously, their biological parents. If I were a kid's "second best", and she my own "second best", would those two cancel each other out?
I think there are complex issues when thinking of adoption but there is a way through it. I have heard from most who talk abuot adoption, that even though they first started to try for a bio child, that once their child arrives they cannot imagine being a parent to anyone else. Not sure, but interesting stuff to think about.
ReplyDeleteI think adoption brings out many questions and concerns and fears no matter what the situation. Most people start wanting a biological child and turn to adoption when that plan doesn't work out. I think once that adopted child comes into your life, you 'only have eyes for them' so to speak. They ARE your child and that is what comes across.
ReplyDeleteI agree with both of you. No matter how you come to be a mother, you always love your child. But I do worry about the child's feelings on this issue.
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